There are a lot of expectations that come with Valentine’s Day. If you are in a relationship you might feel the need to buy your partner some chocolates, flowers, perfume or aftershave and even feel the need to make a dinner reservation.
Have you ever thought that YOU are someone very special in your life?
How about making Valentine’s Day 2019 about loving yourself?
This doesn’t mean you must cancel your dinner reservation with your partner and it doesn’t mean you can’t shower him/her with gifts, but don’t let yourself get lost in all of this. If we don’t appreciate ourselves, how can we expect others to? If you are constantly doing things for other people and don’t think about yourself, you might feel resentment and your relationships will suffer. Taking care of yourself is not being selfish, loving yourself is very important.
Think about what makes you feel good about yourself.
Maybe its time to think about your relationships and friendships and surround yourself with positive energy. Quality over quantity is key when it comes to your circle of friends, less is more!
Here are some ways to practice self care on Valentine’s Day.
The first step to self love is to accept yourself for who you are. Stop comparing yourself to other people and enjoy the person you are!
Lead a healthy lifestyle
Show your body that it matters by feeding it with the right type of food. The types of food we eat can play a role in how we feel and can impact on our mood.
Have a nice long hot bath
Run yourself a bath, add a bath bomb, some candles, relax and take time out just for you.
Replacing negative thoughts with positive ones
Negative thoughts encourage negative feelings. Try replacing each negative thought with a positive one. This will improve your self worth.
Do some exercise you enjoy
Exercise releases endorphins and puts you in a good mood.
Turn off social media
Take time to fully focus on yourself without social media getting in the way! Social media can be stressful and can contribute to feelings of anxiety and depression.
Self care is important so we take care of our mental, emotional & physical health. It will benefit you as well as benefiting your friends and family.
If you are going through a difficult time and would like to speak to a counsellor, please feel free to give me a call in total confidence. I can help you understand how to take care of yourself without feeling guilty, let self care be a pleasure!!!
Happy YOU day on Valentine’s Day!!!!
Melanie Sanders(DiP MBACP)